Parenting

Don’t let a text ignite a misunderstanding

Texting Misunderstanding

Texting can be a convenient way to communicate. There are days that Crista and I will use texting to figure out where to meet, what the kids have going on, who’s taking who to their activities. For those types of situations, texting can be useful. However, communicating through text regarding an emotional situation or a situation that doesn’t have a quick answer, can often lead to a misunderstanding. It often goes like this: His wife just walked into the kitchen and found her son with yogurt all over himself and the floor. It takes her 30 minutes to respond to …

70% of pastors do not have a close friend

Pastor's family life

Being a pastor is not easy, and the ministry can be demanding upon their family. Most pastors are bi-vocational, so they are juggling work, being a pastor, while trying to carve out time with their family. It’s easy to view our pastor as an anchor that will always be there. But like us all, they go through the ups and downs of life. Ways to encourage your pastor Pray for your pastor and his family daily. Let him know that you appreciate him. Allow him and his family to be human. Attend church regularly. Gossip can destroy a church. Be …

42 Lessons that I have learned.

Lessons that I have learned

I’m getting ready to celebrate my 42nd birthday. This post is an updated post that I had written a while back. It’s a few lessons that I have learned on this journey. People that know and love you will forgive you. Loyal friendships are a rarity. Living in the present moment is much more challenging than living in the past or dreaming of the future. The grass is not greener on the other side. A person that has a hard demeanor and is often angered is dealing with some internal issues. Respect and love go hand and hand. Doing the …

Complaining can become a habit

Family Complaining

One of my favorite family Christmas traditions is reading from a grateful journal that we keep as a family. Throughout the year, each of us will write down what we are thankful for. Some of the entries are as simple as going out for ice cream while others are more serious such as God keeping a family member for being seriously hurt. This past Christmas as we read aloud each entry from 2018, I was reminded how blessed our family had been. Like all families, we had ups and downs, but through it, all God provided. Crista and I want …

59 Verses from Proverbs for Families

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Though Solomon made a lot of mistakes, he is still considered the wisest man that ever lived.  I love the book of Proverbs because of the wisdom it provides for everyday living.  Below are fifty-nine verses, that I find helpful as a parent to guide my children.  If you have not read the book of Proverbs in a while, take a month and read one chapter a day.   What is your favorite verse from Proverbs? My son, if sinners entice thee, consent thou not. Discretion shall preserve thee, understanding shall keep thee: Trust in the Lord with all thine …

The Bulldog or Dove Approach?

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I would like to share with you a blog post that my good friend Pastor Bill Ivy wrote. As you read it, think of how your approach to your spouse or kids can make a difference in how they respond. Have you ever tried to FORCE a person to change? I call it the bulldog approach.  It does not persuade people very well.  Bulldogs will drive people away and keep them away. Why not start by respecting the other person’s idea.  Letting them know that you understand their point of view. Then proceed to gradually build up your idea. Letting …

A Lasting Impact

A Lasting Impact William Andes

As a child, I was raised in a home that was filled with faith, fun, and love. Many memories come to mind when I recall the times we had together as a family. At our home, we enjoyed having youth meetings, building small forts in our backyard, and taking family vacations. While all of these things were enjoyable, the most important thing that I remember was my mother and fathers’ sincere desire to serve the Lord with all of their hearts. My father’s name is Daniel, and my mother’s name is Shannon. Isaac and Ethan are my two older brothers …

Do we have to have Family Devotions?

Family Devotions

Often, as new parents we look at family devotions as a checklist: 1. Read a chapter of the Bible 2. Discuss the chapter 3. Pray Repeat Daily   For Crista and I, this way of doing family devotions did not last long.  When you have a grumpy 4-year-old, that is ready to go to bed, reading a chapter from Revelations does not do much for them.  It does not set the right atmosphere when you are having to threaten your child that we will do this devotion if it takes us all night.  There were times we were so concerned …

Where are the manly men?

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A while back, I attended the funeral of a manly man.  The type of man who preferred blue jeans, cowboy hat, and boots.  He worked long hard hours to support his family.  I began to ponder the question,  where are the manly men at today? Where are the men that might be a little rough around the edges, but when he shakes your hand, you know you have shaken a man’s hand?  A mother once shared with me how now she not only prays that her daughter will find a husband that is filled with the Holy Ghost, but in …

What Makes You Feel Important?

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Most of us fulfill many different roles.  I am a husband, dad, business owner, employee, minister and the list goes on and on.  Each of these roles brings a level of satisfaction.  It is easy to get wrapped up in a particular role that builds our confidence and one that people are always applauding.  I once heard an actor talk about how he would spend all day at a set and everyone around him would brag about him and laugh at his jokes. When he arrived home that night, he was met by his wife who had been at home all …